父母与孩子之间的相处
Relationship between parents and children

各位下午好，今天来对父母与孩子之间的相处进行探讨
Good afternoon, everyone, today I am here to discuss the relationship between parents and children

第一部分
Part I

01父母与孩子之间相处友好的重要性
01 The importance of friendship between parents and children

家庭给予我们情感的支撑，让我们拥有向前的勇气；当我们面对风雨时，它又会是我们的避风港湾。（补充能量）
Family gives us emotional support and gives us the courage to move forward; When we face the wind and rain, it will be our safe haven. (Replenish energy).

父母给予我们新生，教会我们表达情感，让我们探索世界与世界勾连。（影响孩子）
Our parents give us new life, teach us to express our emotions, and let us explore and connect with the world. (Affecting children).

良好的家庭关系能提升我们幸福感的同时也让家庭更和睦，稳定。（幸福基石）
A good family relationship can improve our sense of happiness and make the family more harmonious and stable. (Cornerstone of Happiness)

第二部分
Part II

02相处中产生冲突的根源
02 The root cause of conflict in getting along

既然家庭关系这么重要，我们为什么还会产生冲突和矛盾呢？我觉得冲突产生的根源是不重视情绪价值的提供。
If family relationships are so important, why do we still have conflicts and contradictions? I think the root cause of conflict is the lack of emphasis on the provision of emotional value.

家庭是由血缘关系绑定的，因为血缘绑定了，所以无论我们对父母输出了什么样的情绪，都无法拆散这种关系。所以我们从来都没有重视过情绪的价值。每个人都在质疑，认为自己在家庭中的索取是正确的。只要我们是正确的，其他成员无论身份，只要跟我们不一样，那他一定是错的，这就是冲突的根源。但是在对和错的冲突中，没有任何人的情绪被尊重。
Family is bound by blood ties, and because blood ties are bound, no matter what kind of emotions we have for our parents, we can't break up this relationship. So we never valued the value of emotions. Everyone is questioning, believing that what they are asking for in the family is right. As long as we are right, no matter who the other member is, as long as he is different from us, then he must be wrong, and this is the source of the conflict. But in the conflict between right and wrong, no one's emotions are respected.

第三部分
Part III

03如何从根源入手来降低冲突的频率
03How to reduce the frequency of conflicts by starting from the root cause

我们知道了冲突的根源，就要知道解决冲突不在于对和错的解决，而是对和对的解决。因为每个人的需求都是正当的。比如两个人一起去旅游，一个人已经很累了，想休息，但另一个人想爬山，你能说哪一方是错的吗？所以要解决冲突，就必须认为对方的情绪和需求是正当的，合理的，即使与我们的不一样甚至是冲突的。
Once we know the root causes of conflict, we need to know that conflict resolution is not the resolution of right and wrong, but the resolution of right and right. Because everyone's needs are legitimate. For example, if two people go on a trip together, one person is already tired and wants to rest, but the other person wants to climb the mountain, can you say which one is wrong? Therefore, in order to resolve the conflict, it is necessary to think that the emotions and needs of the other person are legitimate and reasonable, even if they are different from ours or even conflicting.

最后
At last

04那么我们应该怎样和父母相处呢？
04So how should we get along with our parents?

不一定要诚实沟通。中国父母的一个通病是为你担忧的同时让自己难受。但是父母之间最真实的沟通带来的往往是最直接的愧疚感。因为父母和我们都明白那种帮不上忙的愧疚与无能为力所带来的难受，所以我们要适当报喜不报忧。
It doesn't have to be honest communication. A common problem of Chinese parents is to worry about you and make yourself uncomfortable at the same time. But the most authentic communication between parents often brings the most direct feelings of guilt. Because both parents and we understand the discomfort of not being able to help and being powerless, we need to report the good news appropriately and not the bad news.

多聆听父母的絮絮叨叨也是一种幸福。
It is also a blessing to listen to the chatter of your parents.

常和家人联系，即使我们身处异地，也不要忘了远方有家人在等你。
Always keep in touch with your family, and even if we are in a different place, don't forget that there is family waiting for you from afar.