幸福
1. 你不必热爱你的工作。工作是赚钱的一种方式。许多人通过将赚到的钱用在他们关心的事情上,在不错的工作中过着美好的生活。
2. 鲟鱼定律指出,90% 的所有东西都是垃圾。如果你不喜欢诗歌、美术或任何东西,你可能只看过那些废话。去看看吧!
3. 人们没有意识到他们有多讨厌通勤。一个离工作地点更远的好房子不值得你把生命的一部分奉献给无聊和疲劳。
4. 有证据表明,内向者和外向者都会从被推动变得更外向中受益。下次你不确定是否想出去时考虑一下。
成功
5. 历史记得那些最先进入市场的人。把你的作品推向世界比让它完美更重要。
6. 你是否对分手或离职持观望态度?你可能应该去做。平均而言,当人们冒险时,他们最终会更快乐。
7. 完成总比完美好。
8.纪律优于动机。前者可以训练,后者转瞬即逝。如果你只依靠动力,你将无法完成伟大的事情。
9. 你可以通过练习来提高你的沟通技巧,而不是通过练习来提高你的智力。如果你不是那么聪明,但可以清楚地传达想法,那么你比所有不能清楚地传达的人都有很大的优势。
10. 你不是生活在电子游戏中。如果您要做一些愚蠢的事情,或者您已经朝着错误的方向走得太久,则不会弹出警告。您必须创建自己的警告。
11.如果你听成功人士谈论他们的方法,请记住,所有使用相同方法但失败的人都没有制作有关它的视频。
12. 最好的建议是个人的,来自非常了解你的人。根据需要接受像这样的广泛建议,但获得帮助的最佳方式是询问爱你的诚实朋友。
13. 让事情尽可能简单。找到开始锻炼的最简单方法。找到开始写作的最简单方法。人们让事情变得比他们必须的更难,当他们无法成功时会感到沮丧。尽量不要这样做。
14. 培养可靠的声誉。良好的声誉很有价值,因为它们很稀有(容易被摧毁,难以重建)。如果您的客户知道咖啡总是热的,您就不必冲泡最美味的咖啡。
15.你每天如何度过就是你如何度过你的生活。
关系
16.在人际关系中,寻找一个你可以在附近闲逛的人。长期的关系大多只是在令人不寒而栗的情况下度过的。
17. 不要向同事或网上抱怨你的伴侣。好处可以忽略不计,而代价正在摧毁你的灵魂。
18. After a breakup, cease all contact as soon as practical. The potential for drama is endless, and the potential for a good friendship is negligible. Wait a year before trying to be friends again.
19. When dating, de-emphasizing your quirks will lead to 90% of people thinking you’re kind of alright. Emphasizing your quirks will lead to 10% of people thinking you’re fascinating and fun. Those are the people interested in dating you. Aim for them.
20. There are two red flags to avoid almost all dangerous people: 1. The perpetually aggrieved ; 2. The angry.
21. Those who generate anxiety in you and promise that they have the solution are grifters. See: politicians, marketers, new masculinity gurus, etc. Avoid these.
Body
22. The 20-20-20 rule: Every 20 minutes of screenwork, look at a spot 20 feet away for 20 seconds. This will reduce eye strain and is easy to remember (or program reminders for).
23. Exercise is the most important lifestyle intervention you can do. Even the bare minimum (15 minutes a week) has a huge impact. Start small.
24. Phones have gotten heavier in the last decade and they’re actually pretty hard on your wrists! Use a computer when it’s an alternative or try to at least prop up your phone.
Productivity
25. Learn keyboard shortcuts. They’re easy to learn and you’ll get tasks done faster and easier.
26. Keep your desk and workspace bare. Treat every object as an imposition upon your attention, because it is. A workspace is not a place for storing things. It is a place for accomplishing things.
27. Reward yourself after completing challenges, even badly.
Rationality
28. Noticing biases in others is easy, noticing biases in yourself is hard. However, it has a much higher pay-off.
29. Explaining problems is good. Often in the process of laying out a problem, a solution will present itself.
30. Selfish people should listen to advice to be more selfless, selfless people should listen to advice to be more selfish. This applies to many things. Whenever you receive advice, consider its opposite as well. You might be filtering out the advice you need most.
Compassion
31.Call your parents when you think of them, tell your friends when you love them.
32. Compliment people more. Many people have trouble thinking of themselves as smart, or pretty, or kind, unless told by someone else. You can help them out.
33. Don’t punish people for trying. You teach them to not try with you. Punishing includes whining that it took them so long, that they did it badly, or that others have done it better.
34.Don't punish people for admitting they were wrong, you make it harder for them to improve.
35. In general, you will look for excuses to not be kind to people. Resist these.
Possessions
36. Things you use for a significant fraction of your life (bed: 1/3rd, office-chair: 1/4th) are worth investing in.
37. “Where is the good knife?” If you’re looking for your good X, you have bad Xs. Throw those out.
38. If your work is done on a computer, get a second monitor. Less time navigating between windows means more time for thinking.
39. Establish clear rules about when to throw out old junk. Once clear rules are established, junk will probably cease to be a problem. This is because any rule would be superior to our implicit rules (“keep this broken stereo for five years in case I learn how to fix it”).
40. When buying things, time and money trade-off against each other. If you’re low on money, take more time to find deals. If you’re low on time, stop looking for great deals and just buy things quickly online.
Self
41. Deficiencies do not make you special. The older you get, the more your inability to cook will be a red flag for people.
42. If you’re under 90, try things.
43. Things that aren’t your fault can still be your responsibility.
44. Defining yourself by your suffering is an effective way to keep suffering forever (ex. incels, trauma).
45. Keep your identity small. “I’m not the kind of person who does things like that” is not an explanation, it’s a trap. It prevents nerds from working out and men from dancing.
46. Don’t confuse ‘doing a thing because I like it’ with ‘doing a thing because I want to be seen as the sort of person who does such things’.
47. Remember that you are dying.
48. Personal epiphanies feel great, but they fade within weeks. Upon having an epiphany, make a plan and start actually changing behavior.
Others
49. In choosing between living with 0-1 people vs 2 or more people, remember that ascertaining responsibility will no longer be instantaneous with more than one roommate (“whose dishes are these?”).
50. When you ask people, “What’s your favorite book / movie / band?” and they stumble, ask them instead what book / movie / band they’re currently enjoying most. They’ll almost always have one and be able to talk about it.