The other day I made an advice thread based on Putanumonit's from last year! If you know a source for one of these, shout and I’ll edit it in.
前几天，我根据去年的 Putanumonit 制作了一个建议线程！如果你知道其中之一的来源，请大喊大叫，我会编辑它。
Possessions 财产
1. If you want to find out about people’s opinions on a product, google \
1. 如果您想了解人们对产品的看法，请谷歌 \reddit。与SEO的谷歌结果相比，你会得到真正的人争论。
2. Some banks charge you $20 a month for an account, others charge you 0. If you’re with one of the former, have a good explanation for what those $20 are buying.
2. 有些银行每月向您收取 20 美元的账户费用，有些银行向您收取 0 美元的费用。如果你和前者之一在一起，请对这 20 美元买的东西有一个很好的解释。
3. Things you use for a significant fraction of your life (bed: 1/3rd, office-chair: 1/4th) are worth investing in.
3. 你一生中大部分时间都使用的东西（床：1/3，办公椅：1/4）值得投资。
4. “Where is the good knife?” If you’re looking for your good X, you have bad Xs. Throw those out.
4.“好刀在哪里？如果你在寻找你的好X，你有坏的X，把它们扔掉。
5. If your work is done on a computer, get a second monitor. Less time navigating between windows means more time for thinking.
5. 如果您的工作是在计算机上完成的，请购买第二台显示器。在窗口之间导航的时间越少，思考的时间就越多。
6. Establish clear rules about when to throw out old junk. Once clear rules are established, junk will probably cease to be a problem. This is because any rule would be superior to our implicit rules (“keep this broken stereo for five years in case I learn how to fix it”).
6. 制定关于何时扔掉旧垃圾的明确规则。一旦建立了明确的规则，垃圾可能就不再是问题了。这是因为任何规则都优于我们的隐性规则（“将这个损坏的立体声音响保留五年，以防我学会如何修复它”）。
7. Don’t buy CDs for people. They have Spotify. Buy them merch from a band they like instead. It’s more personal and the band gets more money.
7.不要为人买CD。他们有 Spotify。从他们喜欢的乐队那里购买商品。它更个人化，乐队得到更多的钱。
8. When buying things, time and money trade-off against each other. If you’re low on money, take more time to find deals. If you’re low on time, stop looking for great deals and just buy things quickly online.
8.买东西时，时间和金钱相互权衡。如果您的钱不多，请花更多时间寻找优惠。如果您时间紧迫，请停止寻找超值优惠，只需在线快速购买即可。
Cooking 烹饪
9. Steeping minutes: Green at 3, black at 4, herbal at 5. Good tea is that simple!
9. 浸泡分钟数：绿色 3 分钟，黑色 4 分钟，草本 5 分钟。好茶就是这么简单！
10. Food actually can be both cheap, healthy, tasty, and relatively quick to prepare. All it requires is a few hours one day to prepare many meals for the week.
10. 食物实际上既便宜又健康、美味，而且准备速度相对较快。每天只需要几个小时来准备一周的许多饭菜。
11. Cooking pollutes the air. Opening windows for a few minutes after cooking can dramatically improve air quality.
11.烹饪污染空气。烹饪后打开窗户几分钟可以显着改善空气质量。
12. Food taste can be made much more exciting through simple seasoning. It’s also an opportunity for expression. Buy a few herbs and spices and experiment away.
12.通过简单的调味，可以使食物的味道更加令人兴奋。这也是一个表达的机会。买一些草药和香料，然后尝试一下。
13. When googling a recipe, precede it with ‘best’. You’ll find better recipes.
13. 在谷歌上搜索食谱时，在它前面加上“最好”。你会找到更好的食谱。
Productivity 生产力
14. Advanced search features are a fast way to create tighter search statements. For example:
14. 高级搜索功能是创建更紧密的搜索语句的快速方法。例如：
img html 图片HTML
will return inferior results compared to:
与以下相比，将返回较差的结果：
img html -w3 图片 HTML -w3
15. You can automate mundane computer tasks with Autohotkey (or AppleScript). If you keep doing a sequence “so simple a computer can do it”, make the computer do it.
15. 您可以使用 Autohotkey（或 AppleScript）自动执行日常计算机任务。如果你一直做一个“计算机可以做到如此简单”的序列，那就让计算机去做。
16. Learn keyboard shortcuts. They’re easy to learn and you’ll get tasks done faster and easier.
16.学习键盘快捷键。它们易于学习，您将更快、更轻松地完成任务。
17. Done is better than perfect.
17.完成总比完美好。
18. Keep your desk and workspace bare. Treat every object as an imposition upon your attention, because it is. A workspace is not a place for storing things. It is a place for accomplishing things.
18. 保持办公桌和工作空间裸露。把每一个物体都看作是强加给你注意力的，因为它是。工作空间不是存放物品的地方。这是一个完成事情的地方。
19. Reward yourself after completing challenges, even badly.
19. 完成挑战后奖励自己，即使是糟糕的挑战。
Body 身体
20. The 20-20-20 rule: Every 20 minutes of screenwork, look at a spot 20 feet away for 20 seconds. This will reduce eye strain and is easy to remember (or program reminders for).
20. 20-20-20 规则：每 20 分钟的屏幕工作，看 20 英尺外的一个地方 20 秒。这将减少眼睛疲劳，并且易于记忆（或程序提醒）。
21. Exercise (weightlifting) not only creates muscle mass, it also improves skeletal structure. Lift!
21. 运动（举重）不仅可以产生肌肉质量，还可以改善骨骼结构。电梯！
22. Exercise is the most important lifestyle intervention you can do. Even the bare minimum (15 minutes a week) has a huge impact. Start small.
22. 运动是你能做的最重要的生活方式干预。即使是最低限度（每周 15 分钟）也会产生巨大的影响。从小事做起。
23. (~This is not medical advice~). Don’t waste money on multivitamins, they don’t work. Vitamin D supplementation does seem to work, which is important because deficiency is common.
23.（~这不是医疗建议~）。不要把钱浪费在多种维生素上，它们不起作用。补充维生素D似乎确实有效，这很重要，因为缺乏维生素D很常见。
24. Phones have gotten heavier in the last decade and they’re actually pretty hard on your wrists! Use a computer when it’s an alternative or try to at least prop up your phone.
24. 在过去的十年里，手机变得越来越重，实际上它们在你的手腕上非常坚硬！使用电脑，或者尝试至少支撑你的手机。
Success 成功
25. History remembers those who got to market first. Getting your creation out into the world is more important than getting it perfect.
25. 历史会记住那些最先进入市场的人。把你的作品推向世界比让它变得完美更重要。
26. Are you on the fence about breaking up or leaving your job? You should probably go ahead and do it. People, on average, end up happier when they take the plunge.
26.您是否对分手或离职持观望态度？你可能应该继续去做。平均而言，当人们冒险时，他们最终会更快乐。
27. Discipline is superior to motivation. The former can be trained, the latter is fleeting. You won’t be able to accomplish great things if you’re only relying on motivation.
27.纪律优于动机。前者可以训练，后者转瞬即逝。如果你只依靠动力，你将无法完成伟大的事情。
28. You can improve your communication skills with practice much more effectively than you can improve your intelligence with practice. If you’re not that smart but can communicate ideas clearly, you have a great advantage over everybody who can’t communicate clearly.
28.通过练习可以比通过练习提高智力更有效，因此可以有效地提高沟通技巧。如果你不是那么聪明，但可以清楚地传达想法，那么你比所有不能清楚地沟通的人都有很大的优势。
29. You do not live in a video game. There are no pop-up warnings if you’re about to do something foolish, or if you’ve been going in the wrong direction for too long. You have to create your own warnings.
29.您不生活在电子游戏中。如果你要做一些愚蠢的事情，或者你已经走错了方向太久了，没有弹出警告。您必须创建自己的警告。
30. If you listen to successful people talk about their methods, remember that all the people who used the same methods and failed did not make videos about it.
30.如果您听成功人士谈论他们的方法，请记住，所有使用相同方法并失败的人都没有制作有关它的视频。
31. The best advice is personal and comes from somebody who knows you well. Take broad-spectrum advice like this as needed, but the best way to get help is to ask honest friends who love you.
31.最好的建议是个人的，来自熟悉你的人。根据需要接受这样的广谱建议，但获得帮助的最好方法是询问爱你的诚实朋友。
32. Make accomplishing things as easy as possible. Find the easiest way to start exercising. Find the easiest way to start writing. People make things harder than they have to be and get frustrated when they can’t succeed. Try not to.
32. 让完成事情尽可能简单。找到开始锻炼的最简单方法。找到最简单的开始写作的方法。人们让事情变得比他们必须的更难，当他们无法成功时会感到沮丧。尽量不要这样做。
33. Cultivate a reputation for being dependable. Good reputations are valuable because they’re rare (easily destroyed and hard to rebuild). You don’t have to brew the most amazing coffee if your customers know the coffee will always be hot.
34. How you spend every day is how you spend your life.
Rationality
35. Noticing biases in others is easy, noticing biases in yourself is hard. However, it has much higher pay-off.
36. Explaining problems is good. Often in the process of laying out a problem, a solution will present itself.
37. Foolish people are right about most things. Endeavour to not let the opinions of foolish people automatically discredit those opinions.
38. You have a plan. A time-traveller from 2030 appears and tells you your plan failed. Which part of your plan do you think is the one that fails? Fix that part.
39. If something surprises you again and again, stop being surprised.
40. Should you freak out upon seeing your symptoms on the worst diseases on WebMD? Probably not! Look up the base rates for the disease and then apply Bayes’ Theorem
41. Selfish people should listen to advice to be more selfless, selfless people should listen to advice to be more selfish. This applies to many things. Whenever you receive advice, consider its opposite as well. You might be filtering out the advice you need most.
42. Common systems and tools have been designed so everybody can handle them. So don’t worry that you’re the only one who can’t! You can figure out doing laundry, baking, and driving on a highway.
Self
43. Deficiencies do not make you special. The older you get, the more your inability to cook will be a red flag for people.
44. There is no interpersonal situation that can’t be improved by knowing more about your desires, goals, and structure. ‘Know thyself!’
45. If you’re under 90, try things.
46. Things that aren’t your fault can still be your responsibility.
47. Defining yourself by your suffering is an effective way to keep suffering forever (ex. incels, trauma).
48. Keep your identity small. “I’m not the kind of person who does things like that” is not an explanation, it’s a trap. It prevents nerds from working out and men from dancing.
49. Don’t confuse ‘doing a thing because I like it’ with ‘doing a thing because I want to be seen as the sort of person who does such things’
50. Remember that you are dying.
51. Events can hurt us, not just our perceptions of them. It’s good to build resilience, but sometimes it isn’t your fault if something really gets to you.
52. If you want to become funny, try just saying stupid shit (in the right company!) until something sticks.
53. To start defining your problems, say (out loud) “everything in my life is completely fine.” Notice what objections arise.
54. Procrastination comes naturally, so apply it to bad things. “I want to hurt myself right now. I’ll do it in an hour.” “I want a smoke now, so in half an hour I’ll go have a smoke.” Then repeat. Much like our good plans fall apart while we delay them, so can our bad plans.
55. Personal epiphanies feel great, but they fade within weeks. Upon having an epiphany, make a plan and start actually changing behavior.
56. Sometimes unsolvable questions like “what is my purpose?” and “why should I exist?” lose their force upon lifestyle fixes. In other words, seeing friends regularly and getting enough sleep can go a long way to solving existentialism.
Hazards
57. There are two red flags to avoid almost all dangerous people: 1. The perpetually aggrieved ; 2. The angry.
58. Some people create drama out of habit. You can avoid these people.
59. Those who generate anxiety in you and promise that they have the solution are grifters. See: politicians, marketers, new masculinity gurus, etc. Avoid these.
60. (~This is not legal advice!~)
DO NOT TALK TO COPS.
61. It is cheap for people to talk about their values, goals, rules, and lifestyle. When people’s actions contradict their talk, pay attention!
62. “If they’ll do it with you, they’ll do it to you” and “those who live by the sword die by the sword” mean the same thing. Viciousness you excuse in yourself, friends, or teammates will one day return to you, and then you won’t have an excuse.
Others
63. In choosing between living with 0-1 people vs 2 or more people, remember that ascertaining responsibility will no longer be instantaneous with more than one roommate (“whose dishes are these?”).
64. Understand people have the right to be tasteless.
65. You will prevent yourself from even having thoughts that could lower your status. Avoid blocking yourself off just so people keep thinking you’re cool.
66. Being in groups is important. If you don’t want to join a sports team, consider starting a shitty band. It’s the closest you’ll get to being in an RPG. Train with 2-4 other characters, learn new moves, travel from pub to pub, and get quests from NPCs.
67. It’s possible to get people to do things that make you like them more but respect them less. Avoid this, it destroys relationships.
68. Think a little about why you enjoy what you enjoy. If you can explain what you love about Dune, you can now communicate not only with Dune fans, but with people who love those aspects in other books.
69. When you ask people, “What’s your favorite book / movie / band?” and they stumble, ask them instead what book / movie / band they’re currently enjoying most. They’ll almost always have one and be able to talk about it.
70. Bored people are boring.
71. A norm of eating with your family without watching something will lead to better conversations. If this idea fills you with dread, consider getting a new family.
72. If you bus to other cities, consider finding a rideshare on Facebook instead. It’s cheaper, faster, and leads to interesting conversations.
Relationships
73. In relationships look for somebody you can enjoy just hanging out near. Long-term relationships are mostly spent just chilling.
74. Sometimes things last a long time because they’re good (jambalaya). But that doesn’t mean that because something has lasted a long time that it is good (penile subincisions). Apply this to relationships, careers, and beliefs as appropriate.
75. Don’t complain about your partner to coworkers or online. The benefits are negligible and the cost is destroying a bit of your soul.
76. After a breakup, cease all contact as soon as practical. The potential for drama is endless, and the potential for a good friendship is negligible. Wait a year before trying to be friends again.
77. If you haven’t figured things out sexually, remember that there isn’t a deadline. If somebody is making you feel like there is, consider the possibility that they aren’t your pal.
78. If you have trouble talking during dates, try saying whatever comes into your head. At worst you’ll ruin some dates (which weren’t going well anyways), at best you’ll have some great conversations. Alcohol can help.
79. When dating, de-emphasizing your quirks will lead to 90% of people thinking you’re kind of alright. Emphasizing your quirks will lead to 10% of people thinking you’re fascinating and fun. Those are the people interested in dating you. Aim for them.
80. Relationships need novelty. It’s hard to have novelty during Covid—but have you planned your post-Covid adventure yet?
81. People can be the wrong fit for you without being bad. Being a person is complicated and hard.
Compassion
82. Call your parents when you think of them, tell your friends when you love them.
83. Compliment people more. Many people have trouble thinking of themselves as smart, or pretty, or kind, unless told by someone else. You can help them out.
84. If somebody is undergoing group criticism, the tribal part in you will want to join in the fun of righteously destroying somebody. Resist this, you’ll only add ugliness to the world. And anyway, they’ve already learned the lesson they’re going to learn and it probably isn’t the lesson you want.
85. Cultivate compassion for those less intelligent than you. Many people, through no fault of their own, can’t handle forms, scammers, or complex situations. Be kind to them because the world is not.
86. Cultivate patience for difficult people. Communication is extremely complicated and involves getting both tone and complex ideas across. Many people can barely do either. Don’t punish them.
87. Don’t punish people for trying. You teach them to not try with you. Punishing includes whining that it took them so long, that they did it badly, or that others have done it better.
88. Remember that many people suffer invisibly, and some of the worst suffering is shame. Not everybody can make their pain legible.
89. Don't punish people for admitting they were wrong, you make it harder for them to improve.
90. In general, you will look for excuses to not be kind to people. Resist these.
Joy
91. Human mood and well-being are heavily influenced by simple things: Exercise, good sleep, light, being in nature. It’s cheap to experiment with these.
92. You have vanishingly little political influence and every thought you spend on politics will probably come to nothing. Consider building things instead, or at least going for a walk.
93. Sturgeon’s law states that 90% of everything is crap. If you dislike poetry, or fine art, or anything, it’s possible you’ve only ever seen the crap. Go looking!
94. You don’t have to love your job. Jobs can be many things, but they’re also a way to make money. Many people live fine lives in okay jobs by using the money they make on things they care about.
95. Some types of sophistication won’t make you enjoy the object more, they’ll make you enjoy it less. For example, wine snobs don’t enjoy wine twice as much as you, they’re more keenly aware of how most wine isn’t good enough. Avoid sophistication that diminishes your enjoyment.
96. If other people having it worse than you means you can’t be sad, then other people having it better than you would mean you can’t be happy. Feel what you feel.
97. Liking and wanting things are different. There are things like junk food that you want beyond enjoyment. But you can also like things (like reading) without wanting them. If you remember enjoying something but don't feel a desire for it now, try pushing yourself.
98. People don’t realize how much they hate commuting. A nice house farther from work is not worth the fraction of your life you are giving to boredom and fatigue.
99. There’s some evidence that introverts and extroverts both benefit from being pushed to be more extroverted. Consider this the next time you aren’t sure if you feel like going out.
100. Bad things happen dramatically (a pandemic). Good things happen gradually (malaria deaths dropping annually) and don’t feel like ‘news’. Endeavour to keep track of the good things to avoid an inaccurate and dismal view of the world.